Hi,
There are three main things that affect DOF. Aperture, Distance and Focal length.
1. Aperture. The larger the aperture (smaller f) for a given distance and focal length, then the smaller the DOF.
2. Focal Length. The longer the focal length for a given distance and aperture, then the smaller DOF.
3. Distance. The closer to the subject with all else equal, then the smaller the DOF. There is also the effect of distance of the subject to the background and its ratio with lens to subject distance. The higher the ratio (subject to background / lens to subject) then the more OOF the background will be.
Large aperture lenses like the 85/1.4 lens (or the much more affordable 50/1.8 ) can produce those sought after blurred backgrounds fairly easily. With slower lenses it can be neccesary to work at it by closing up the distance to subject, picking an angle with a far background and using a longer focal length. This may not leave a lot of room for framing a person, but it is good for other smaller things.
There are plenty of online DOF calculators around that will give you an idea of the relationships and what to expect with different combinations of distance, aperture and focal length.... or you can use this one
http://www.pixspot.com/albums/userpics/ ... ulator.xls
Then go out and play
Cheers