With manual tubes on a
modern camera, you would probably be better off shooting with the lens wide open. This is its default state, and will simplify adjusting things. Use Shutter speed and as a last resort ISO to control exposure
I haven't used tubes since my Pentax Spotmatic F days (mid 70s) , but I dimly recall I had no problems with wide open lenses, as with tubes you are essentially looking at the centre of the image anyway, where the lens designers put most of their effort into quality.
For exposure, start with what the meter says with just the lens, then reduce the speed until you get good exposures with your tubes. Remember the correction (write it on the side of the tube!) and apply it whenever you use the tubes. If you have stacking tubes, don't forget that each combination will have its own correction. If you have helicoid tubes, it will be difficult. Maybe get a ball park at each end of its extension, then guess and use PP to do the final correction.
Use a static object about the same size as your planned object for your tests e.g. if you want to shoot mosquitos, test with a pin stuck in a board. If you want to shoot orchids, use a crumpled up sheet of paper.
Alternatively, as said esewhere, buy better quality tubes.
HTH Greg