Rooz wrote:i normally use between f2.8-f8,
Not for macro, you won't be.
The issue here is that as you get closer to your subject (and that includes this move into macro distances) the range of your DoF decreases dramatically. At f/2.8 at 1 metre you may have DoF of several millimeters (depending upon which lens you're using), but as your subject to focal plane distance decreases, so too does the DoF range for that aperture, for that focal length.
When you're in macro-land, you often find it's best to achieve focus by rocking backwards and forwards slightly, rather than trying to adjust your focus ring. There's a good reason why you can buy accessories such as macro focusing rails ....
And yes, autofocus is often left by the wayside when you're shooting macro.
Often, even at apertures of f/16 or greater, you may find that the head of an insect like an ant may be in focus, but its legs are not.
So you find yourself wanting to add light (look at ring flash and other macro lighting solutions) and use even higher aperture values to get even more of your subject into focus.
So, unless you're shooting detail of stamps (or other flat objects) you will find that you need to shoot with high f-stop numbers in order to simply get an acceptable amount of your subject matter into clear focus.
Now consider going outside to shoot that grasshopper or bee on the leaf of a plant .... in a slight breeze. Even the slightest breeze will move your subject, and any attempt by you to achieve good focus will be thwarted by the ambient conditions. It's not impossible .... but it can be frustrating.
Look at issue 2 of Chimp, and the article on BlacknStormy's work. Look at her images ...
Now, getting back to your original question .. as you've surmised, your viewfinder gets dark when you use the DoF Preview button, and it becomes difficult to see anything, let alone which part of your subject matter is in or out of focus.
In pre-digital days it was all we had, but with the advent of chimping, it is far easier to shoot and chimp, and then assess where your shooting is going, than to use the DoF preview.